Holding a grudge and not telling the person why is like spitting into the wind. Holding a grudge will destroy you. It heals nothing. It shows your real (poor) character. If you can’t forgive, don’t expect others to forgive you. Grudges block forgiveness and happiness. Forgive, forget, and don’t hold grudges. Holding a grudge is a sign it’s time to heal thyself. A grudge hurts you more than the other person.
Want to be Happy and Joyful? Put social media aside because Comparison is the Thief of Joy. You have a choice. Run Your Own Race! Become your Authentic Self. “To Thine Own Self Be True” Shakespeare. It’s up to you. Choose wisely.
Everybody has control over who you are and through the power of thought and practice you are able to change and become your true self, your authentic self. This is a great talk about how to do it.
Are you who you want to be? Even aging Baby Boomers can change.
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How are you going to spend your days? Golf? Fishing? Gardening? Working on your hobbies. Now is the chance for a new beginning!
Those activities are going to fill your time only for so long. What are you going to do after you’re bored with them?
Our friend Gary Vaynerchuk, known as GaryVee, has some powerful and inspiring thoughts and advice for our Baby Boomer generation that might light a spark in your heart. He’s fast talking, ADHD, and uses the “f” word so don’t be put off. His thoughts are worth the listen.
I hope you enjoyed this post. You can find more inspiring videos by GaryVee on his YouTube channel Come back again.
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Lisa Nichols is one of the nicest and enthusiastic people I know of. I always feel hopeful and inspired after watching one of her talks. Hope you enjoy this one.
Here she shows how you can Do Good, Live Epic and really enjoy life without selling your soul to the devil. She says, “I used to think it was all about making money, but that was because I was broke!”
Hope you enjoyed this and feel Inspired to live your Authentic Life.
Thanks, John
Some people are very confident in themselves right from the start of live. Others aren’t so much, and many are in between. Here are some tips on how to turn that around and truly believe in yourself and do the things you love and create your perfect life!
Here we go….
“When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt.” ~Honore de Balzac
You know what that voice in your head says…
You can’t do it. You’ll never be good enough. You’re going to fail.
This voice taunts you whenever you set a goal. It criticizes you when life gets difficult. It beats you down when you struggle to stand up against its running commentary.
You know you shouldn’t let self-doubt bother you, but it’s a sneaky critter. Sometimes, you just can’t contain it and it slips past your barriers.
And self-doubt is greedy. When it’s loose, it devours your confidence, strips logic and reason from your mind, and steals happiness from your heart. In return, it leaves you with only fear and insecurity.
You try to remove self-doubt by forcing yourself to “think positive,” which usually doesn’t work as well as you think it should.
The more you fight your self-doubt, the more it fights back. However, with self-knowledge and understanding, you can use self-doubt for your benefit.
When I was a child, I was in love with drawing. For me, drawing was as exciting as going to the playground.
At some point in my childhood, I decided I’d become an artist of some kind. But the critics in my life were quick to cut me down. I’ll bet you’ve heard the same kind of clichés:
“Art is great but not a ‘realistic’ future goal. While it’s a nice hobby to have, you can’t really make a living out of it. You’ll just be another starving artist.”
As children, we internalize these negative messages and parrot them back. If the adults say so, it must be true, right? By adulthood, every time we have a small hope, we’re the first to snuff it out:
“Drawing is nice but not necessary. I’ll never be as good as the real professionals anyway. I don’t even have a degree from an accredited art school.”
For years I stopped myself before I even tried. I did it because I was afraid.
I was afraid of what people would say. I was afraid everyone would hate my art. I was afraid of failing as an artist.
When fear grabs you, your beloved goal forever feels out of reach. But it doesn’t just stop there, does it?
If left unchecked, the infectious bite of fear and self-doubt can spread. You unconsciously start questioning your knowledge and abilities in everything you do. And if you’re like me, you desperately want to find a cure.
One fateful day I realized that trying to beat out my self-doubt wouldn’t rebuild my confidence.
If I wanted to believe in myself, I needed to face my self-doubt and be willing to take care of it.
Before, I imagined self-doubt as a life-sucking monster. Now, I realize it’s actually a fearful, angry, and lost creature secretly crying for help.
Like fear, joy, and sadness, doubt is part of human nature, and it needs understanding. If you want to improve yourself, you need to tame your self-doubt, not fight with it.
That means paying attention to how you react to things, understanding the root of your insecurities, and taking steps to address your fears.
Now I no longer tell myself, “I’ll never be a good enough artist.” Instead, I ask myself, “What can I do to become better?” And I take baby steps.
I went from drawing every few weeks, to every week, and now every two to three days. Re-framing self-doubt has also helped me cope with other challenges, like successfully starting a small business.
Self-doubt doesn’t have to be as monstrous as we make it out to be. It’s all about perspective. The following tips will help you manage your self-doubt.
Learning how to recognize when your self-talk takes a turn for the worse is crucial. When you hear yourself saying, “I can’t,” or, “I don’t know,” or, “What if,” a red flag should go up.
Instead of telling yourself, “I can’t do X,” say, “I can’t do X yet. But I’m working on it.”
Or if you start wondering, “What if I fail?” you can respond by saying, “Then I’ll try again.”
Doing this transforms a negative situation into an opportunity for growth. In the end, it’s about giving yourself a chance.
Toxic people are convinced that everything is impossible, and they are quick to shoot down ideas. They’ll poison your mind into a state of hopelessness.
Don’t let them steal your energy just because they’ve lost theirs.
Instead, surround yourself with supportive and passionate people who can both inspire you and bring out the best in you. You can find them among friends, family, books, or blogs like Tiny Buddha.
They will lift you up when you feel down and help you see the bright side of your darkest fears and doubts.
This one is tough. When you’re down, you’ll more easily remember the bad instead of the good. And oftentimes, the “rah-rah” pep talk just doesn’t cut it.
So, I suggest writing a list. Grab a piece of paper or small notebook, or open a blank document. Now write down your successes, big or small.
If you’re a bit bashful about your achievements, ask someone you trust to tell you the great things they think you’ve done. It’s refreshing and a great confidence boost.
And finally, keep your list with you at all times. It will help you find your way back to yourself whenever you get lost.
You probably spend more time being your own worst enemy instead of being your own best friend.
But you deserve to treat yourself better. After all, you have the rest of your life to spend with yourself.
Think of it this way: Would you mentally abuse or condemn your loved ones? Would you let them suffer in their time of need? If not, then why would you do it to yourself?
So, be kind to yourself. You are more capable and worthy than you give yourself credit for.
Self-doubt never disappears. Over time, you just get better at dealing with it.
It will greet you every time you fall out of your comfort zone and whenever you strive to do something great.
But know that it’s not something you have to fear or resent. Your doubts are only thoughts, not your future.
Sure, something may go wrong. But if you never try, you’re losing an opportunity to improve your life.
Are you willing to risk that instead?
This advice came from our friends at Tiny Buddha.com. A great blog, worth following.
How to Believe in Yourself in the Face of Overwhelming Self-Doubt
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When I was planning the next stage of my life recently, I was reminded of one of the definitions of Insanity. As I study self-improvement and personal development a lot, I thought I knew better than to do something insane. Well, I must be thick headed because it took me a long time to realize that I was doing and thinking in a way I advise others not to.
What did I do?
As I approach retirement I’ve been brainstorming how I can create another source of income to help out. For several years now I’ve been seeking ways to do this online. I’ve had one specific idea that keeps coming up in my thoughts. I made detailed plans to start it, I’m really good at that.
During my days off and in the evenings I make a TO DO list and this online thing was always on the list. The sad thing is, I never get around to working on it. Instead, I go grocery shopping, work in the yard, take care of the house, study about online income, relax, and think about it, a lot! But, I never get to actually DOING something about it. It’s always a dream I’ll do some day.
See the problem yet? Well, the definition of insanity is to keep doing the same thing (ie. nothing but planning) over and over again expecting the results to Change. In other words, I expected the business to just sorta happen. Insane, I know.
The moral of this story is if you keep thinking about it, you keep saying you’ll do something about it and you keep doing this over and over and nothing happens, then get the message, whatever it is ISN’T RIGHT FOR YOU! This is God and the Universe and your inner spirit trying to tell you that this isn’t the BEST thing for you. It’s time to meditate and be quiet and listen to your heart and hear the messages being sent to you. It means a delay, like you’re starting over again (remember I/you never really DID anything) and you have to think more creatively to find what’s right for you. Each of us have special talents to share with the world. Use them to make the world a better place.
So, stop beating your head against the wall wondering why a job, or girlfriend or opportunity isn’t working out for you. It means there’s something better coming to you. Open the Air Waves and your heart and mind and get ready for an exciting ride.
Dream Big
You Can Do It
Live Life Well
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All of use desire to improve our lives and manifest new circumstances, people, things, etc. Often, those teaching us “how” make it sound so serious and even hard. Well, it doesn’t have to be. Here, Christie Marie Sheldon shows us how to access our imagination and child like thoughts and dreams and use them to Manifest anything.
Here’s what she says:
“Learning how to manifest on purpose is easier than you think. In fact, the real secret is, once you learn how, it’s almost ridiculously easy! The following ‘rules’ can be applied to anything you desire to bring into your life.
1. Take the stress out of it. Why take manifesting so seriously? You already know the value of hard work, but you don’t have to make such an big adult deal out of manifesting. Think of it as a game, as a pure game of pretend like you did when you were a child. Approach manifesting from the perspective of play, delight, fun… to take your needy, desperate, fearful and lack-based vibes out of the equation. A child’s imagination knows no bounds. Unfortunately, as adults we have placed some pretty hefty limitations on our imaginations, for no good reason except that other people said so – for example, “you can’t get ahead without a college education” or “it takes money to make money” or “it’s not what you know but who you know.” Says who? Tell that nonsense to the many self-made millionaires who started out with no education, no money, nothing but a lot of imagination and desire. Try this:
1. Pretend you don’t need it. Whatever you want is purely for your enjoyment. It’s the icing on the cake, a little extra to make your life sweeter. But you don’t need it.
2. Believe what you see in your mind. Whatever you want already exists in your imagination, doesn’t it? Therefore it is just as real as any other idea you have ever had that came to fruition. Play with the belief that what you want is already waiting for you. You’ve placed the order, now you’re on your way to pick it up. What have you got to lose? After all, you don’t “need” what you desire, it’s just for fun. It’s all pretend!
3. Believe in the power of your thoughts and emotions. You know how good it feels to have what you want. Embody that feeling and infuse your visualization with its powerful vibration. It’s all good. Relax into it and have fun.
4. Believe in the ‘impossible’. You’re just playing, and in ‘imagination land’ everything is possible and you know it. You don’t question, you just know. Let that knowing transcend any “but” thoughts your logical mind comes up with! Have fun with this and leave the logical mind at home. This is about using the power of thoughts, emotions and your intentions only. You don’t need to worry if or how it will manifest. It’s all play.
5. Throw yourself into it. A child puts him- or herself completely into their imaginary world. Put yourself in yours!
6. Don’t worry, be happy! Positive vibrations attract positive vibrations. Most of us think, “I’ll be happy when… (I find that special someone, land that deal, get a new house, etc.)…” sure you will, but will your current energetic vibration attract those things you want?
Are you vibrating “I don’t think I deserve that, even though it would be really nice…” instead of “I’m so happy, and more goodness is on its way!”
Which one is better: “I’m in love with this dream, but I don’t know how to make it happen!” or “I’m in love with this dream and I just love how it’s all coming together for me!”
Believe in your vision! It is already real!Worry, fear, anxiety, doubt or resistance in the form of limiting beliefs pollute and dilute your vibration. Check out the Love or Above Spiritual Toolkit and learn how happiness will make you a magnet for what you desire. Fill yourself with positive emotions. Fill every cell with love, happiness, joy, peace… and let that light, bright energy radiate outward to attract what you want! The more you amplify positive emotions, the higher and more powerful your vibe will be!
7. See what you want to see. Visualization is a powerful vibration booster. Physical reality isn’t far behind the wonderful ideas you plant in your imagination – IF you water them with love, enthusiasm, unwavering belief and lots of happiness.
8. Just for fun, imagine it really is this easy to manifest anything you want. We’ve all been brought up believing that hard work is the only way to get what we want, but that’s just not true. Money is just a means of exchange and if you put out the right vibrations, you will attract the situations that call for inspired (read: joyful) action, and then you’ll get the results you desire. It’s important to hold your visualization for as long as you can without any mental or emotional interruption: aim for at least half a minute several times a day, consistently, for a month or so.
9. Upgrade your beliefs. Many people also have a bottleneck of positive energy when it comes to money – usually rooted in beliefs of scarcity and unworthiness. But since money is nothing but a number and a means of exchange… do you believe in the scarcity of the things you would purchase with that money? Hmmm….. you don’t, do you? Do you believe that you are not worthy of having food, shelter, nice things… well, there you might have a bit of trouble so I encourage you to have a chat – a long, deep chat – with your Higher Self and your angels and guides. They will steer you in the right direction of believing that you are a Divine being who IS – absolutely – worthy of what you desire.
Become a conscious creator!10. Become a conscious creator. You are already a pro at manifesting. You have, for the most part unconsciously, created a default existence based on your beliefs. There’s no reason why you can’t create an awesome life, using the proper techniques. All you need to do is take conscious control of manifesting instead of defaulting according to your old beliefs. Create new beliefs, guide your thoughts, emotions and visualization; feel the delight of watching your imagination become reality; raise your vibration by being happy and loving; and watch your dreams come true!”
See how fun and easy Christie’s method is? Try it today.
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Choose Wisely!
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When life doesn’t match your expectations or wants, you will be unhappy, in pain, even depressed.
How do you overcome this problem?
The short answer is, write down you expectations, clearly leaving 3 lines between each one.
Under each expectation on the first line, write down your current status of achieving or living that expectation. Most importantly, did deep into your mind and past programing, and decide if each one is Still a Valid Expectation. Is it something you still want to have or achieve in life? Is it really? If not, get ride of it, get it out of your mind and praise yourself for making positive change!
On the next line, write down what you have to do to reach and live that expectation. Do you need to go to school for it, get a licensed, move to another city, take lessons, or network with people already doing it.
Finally, review your life and expectations as they are now and decide if you want to add new expectations or maybe revise the old ones.
This is all about you and what you want in life. You are writing the movie script of your life and the finished product will play on your Big Screen of You Mind. So make it exactly what YOU want. Dream big.
As I like to say,
Think Good Thoughts
Speak Good Words
Do Good Things
Start writing your life script NOW!
Thanks for stopping by, John