Browsed by
Category: Inspiration

15 Ways To Get Re-Inspired

15 Ways To Get Re-Inspired

My Life Path
My Life Path

We start out having a plan, a dream, a goal to achieve something great.  With all the twists and changes that life sends us, sometimes, we get lost and lose our inspiration.

Here’s some great advice I found that will help you get back on track.

15 Ways To Get Re-Inspired
by  Chad Howse

1. Be in nature

Be in nature at least once a month. It’s in nature that we find inspiration. It’s where we remove ourselves from the noise of our day to day lives, find clarity, and focus.

If you’re constantly “in it”, you’ll find your mind will clutter, and your inspiration will flee. Venture to the great out doors and let adventure inspire you.

2. Surround yourself with motivated people

You are the average of the 5 people you hang out with the most. If you hang our with millionaire’s, odds are you’re one as well. If you hang out with motivated people, you’re probably a motivated person as well.

Be very cognizant of who you hang out with. Choose your friends wisely. They’re influence on you is unavoidable.

3. Never think you’re “there”

I’ll always think that I have to improve on my writing – and that I have a long way to go to being a good writer. It keeps me inspired to learn and grow. If I thought I was a good writer I’d not only be lying to myself, but I’d be allowing laziness to peer its head into my life.

Laziness is the devil. Don’t think you’re great, be great.

4. Don’t attempt insignificant feats

Do you get excited by small goals that you know you can accomplish with ease? Of course not. It’s the big, audacious, bold goals and dreams that excite you, so don’t waste your time with the small stuff. Think bigger and be bigger.

5. Be healthy

Be healthy and active. If you’re healthy you’ll have more energy, and if you have more energy you’ll find that you’re far more motivated and inspired than you are if you’re tired and sluggish.

Take pride in your health and your work. Being healthy is a tool that you can use to your advantage, or something that can work against you. What’s great is it’s completely up to you.

6. Read often

Great men have always been voracious readers. Napoleon was, as is Gates, and so was Jobs. If you want to be inspired, pick up a book, it never fails. If a paperback book slows you down then you can always listen to self development audio books.

7. Have tunnel vision

Don’t have a back-up plan, a floor, or a ceiling. Failure shouldn’t be an option, nor should you put a limit on your success.

Focus on one goal, and let that one goal be the only thing that matters.

8. Get excited by adversity

It’s in struggle that we grow. Get excited about this. Too many allow adversity crush their enthusiasm and motivation, but it shouldn’t. It’s a challenge, and challenges are exciting.

Rise to them. Don’t get pushed back by anything.

9. Love problem solving

The road to success is, essentially, one big problem you have to solve. Let that problem excite you. Don’t look at your long, arduous road to success as a negative, instead look at it as a positive journey.

Your mindset will dictate how inspired you are and whether or not you remain consistently inspired and focused.

10. Remove negative people from your life entirely

Negative people are the cancer of society, but they don’t need to be a negative influence on your life. Just get rid of them, and get rid of them now!

If you’re only surrounded by inspired people, you to will be inspired, motivated, and happy.

11. Write 3 things you’re thankful for everyday

We far too often focus only on what we don’t have, rather than everything we do have. The problem with that approach is that happiness will forever elude our grasp.

If our happiness and motivation is contingent on a future accomplishment, when we accomplish what we’ve set out to do, we’ll then make our happiness contingent on an even greater accomplishment. Thus, happiness will always be out of our grasp.

Be happy and thankful first, then let that enthusiasm and energy inspire you to accomplish greatness.

12. Practice success

Practice success by identifying the little goals that you accomplish in your life. Write down your accomplishments, even if they’re small like going for a run or writing an article for a publication.

Practice success everyday and you’ll live life as a successful person.

13. Be a fighter

I love a man who grins when he fights. Winston Churchill

I love that quote. It reminds me of the song Fighter, by Bruce Springsteen. Enjoy adversity. Welcome it. Adversity is what will make you stronger. It’s only through great adversity that great men and women reach accomplish what they’ve set out to accomplish.

If success was easy, everyone would be there. Get inspired by your struggles just like a fighter gets motivated to step into the ring and see what he’s made of.

14. Eat healthy

Eating unhealthy leads to depression and obesity. It’s nearly impossible to be inspired when your body is uninspiring or you’re depressed.

As a simple rule for eating healthy, eat only things that you can pick or kill. Your diet should be made up of things that come from the earth. Stay away from anything man-made or packaged.

15. Study greatness

There are patterns to success. The more you study great people, the more you’ll see these patterns and incorporate them in your own life. Don’t, however, merely read about great people, study their lives. If you can, read about what others close to them have said, read articles about how they accomplished greatness.

Greatness inspires. The more you see that success can, indeed, happen, the more you’ll be inspired to accomplish your own audacious goals.

You can even read inspirational quotes, that will be sure to motivate you and shift you into the right frame of mind to be openly inspired.

It’s those few who are consistently inspired by a greater purpose beyond their own gain that shape the world we live in. So how do we join these few in forging not only our own successful endeavors, but seeing such profound success that the world benefits as well?

(from http://addicted2success.com/life/15-ways-to-rediscover-your-inspiration/)

Are you ready to get back on your life path now?  Let’s go!

Thanks for stopping by, John

 

 

 

Live Epic with Lisa Nichols

Live Epic with Lisa Nichols

Lisa Nichols is one of the nicest and enthusiastic people I know of.  I always feel hopeful and inspired after watching one of her talks.  Hope you enjoy this one.

Here she shows how you can Do Good, Live Epic and really enjoy life without selling your soul to the devil.  She says, “I used to think it was all about making money, but that was because I was broke!”

Hope you enjoyed this and feel Inspired to live your Authentic Life.

Thanks, John

 

4 Ways Retired? Out of work? Now’s the time to Reinvent Yourself

4 Ways Retired? Out of work? Now’s the time to Reinvent Yourself

Sick of the daily grind?
Sick of the daily grind?

Baby Boomers and others, sometimes find themselves faced with situations that are life changing.  Maybe you got laid off, forced to retire early or you’re just sick of all the hassles, politics, daily commuting and daily grind.

What to do?  Now’s the perfect time to Reinvent Yourself!  Do what you’ve always want to do!  Be a teacher, made wooden furniture, teach music, travel guide, become a voice over artist, a researcher, or become and author and speaker.  Do what makes you happy.  As they say, it’s now or never.

Below, is the story of an athlete that was forced to change careers, and how he did it.  There’s lots of good information in his article.  Additionally, there is great information online.  Go for your Dreams!  Create a new life for yourself.  You can begin today!

(original article can be found at http://www.success.com/article/4-tips-to-reinvent-yourself-lewis-howes-style) or click here.

4 Tips to Reinvent Yourself, Lewis Howes Style

How to go from a nobody to a wildly successful somebody
November 24, 2015

It all began, as many things do, with devastation and a door closing, permanently.

All-American football player and decathlete Lewis Howes sustained a wrist injury in 2007. The resulting surgery landed him in a cast for six months and out of the game forever.

As he recovered on his sister’s sofa, Howes pondered his future and didn’t like what he saw: no career, no college degree, no money.

Christmas came and he was still living on that sofa. He got one gift that year, from his brother who drew his Secret Santa. It was a book. “As a dyslexic who struggles with reading, I remember thinking it was one of the worst gifts you could give anyone like me,” he recalls. “Plus, it wasn’t even wrapped.”

The book was The 4-Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss—and Howes read it in three days, cover to cover. “Which, for me, was really fast,” he says. “I couldn’t put it down.” On the fourth day, he closed the book and said out loud: “One day I’m going to become really good friends with the author, Tim Ferriss.”

He had no idea how it was going to happen. Ferriss was already a big deal and “I was a nobody,” Howes shrugs. But on that day, eight years ago, he drew his line in the sand. Howes decided someday he would write a book. He would inspire and open up possibilities for millions of people around the world, the way Ferriss’ book had just opened up his.

And so he has. A few weeks ago, Lewis Howes found out that his book, The School of Greatness—based on his wildly successful podcast—is a New York Times best-seller. In eight years, the journey had come full circle.

In our culture, you hear many near-mythical tales of prodigies, golden men and women, and instant success. And, should this be your perception of Lewis Howes’ success, he deprives you of it immediately. It was a long, hard road of twists and turns, missteps, and trial and error.

So, maybe you’re broken and broke, too, not sure what’s next, either. His story can help you reinvent yourself and who knows, maybe, just maybe, build your own multi-million dollar business:

1. Find a mentor or three.

The first thing Howes did was find mentors. “I had been an athlete. I knew that the better the coach, the better I got. And so I very consciously looked for people to help coach me.”

He had three mentors during the long stretch on his sister’s couch—let’s just call them the Sofa Years.

It so happened that Howes despised the cast he was stuck in for six months. “It kept scratching my face, plus it smelled and was ugly.” And so he created an arm sleeve to cover the cast. It occurred to Howes that there might be a market for his creation. His girlfriend made an introduction to an inventor she knew.

Their first meeting was in a bar. “I was this talky jock walking into the bar with a backward cap on. I got up the nerve to ask him to mentor me.” And the inventor did. He taught Howes everything about taking a product to market: creating, branding, marketing, packaging, licensing, even how to name things.

That product went nowhere, but it served as a catalyst for Howes learning how to market and brand.

Another mentor had mentioned that Howes should check out LinkedIn, which he did, so much so that in 2009 he went on to self-publish a book about it. A third mentor helped Howes figure out how to leverage that book.

2. Put yourself out there and learn from everyone you meet.

Remember Neo from The Matrix? Howes did his best to channel him during the Sofa Years. “I said as long as I’m here, I want to be like Neo and download as much information and build as many skills as I can and really I put myself out there.”

One of those skills was salsa dancing. And it was during salsa that Howes met a guy who traveled around the world and gave speeches for a living. Howes was terrified of public speaking and asked his new friend for advice on how to be a better public speaker. The man urged Howes to join Toastmasters.

The following week, Howes found a Toastmasters meeting nearby. He attended every single week for a year. By the end of the year he had overcome his fear of public speaking. It was another piece of the puzzle: “an incredible journey of becoming more influential and more impactful in my message,” he says.

3. Hone your instincts and honor them.

Howes’ sister was amazingly supportive through all the troubles and experiments of the Sofa Years. Eighteen months in, she asked him, in the gentlest way possible, if he could begin pitching in by getting a job. “I said yes, of course. I was putting myself out there so much, but nothing was happening for me,” he recalls. He began searching Craigslist for sports marketing jobs in Columbus, Ohio. He sent out a slew of résumés and eventually got called in for an interview.

On the day of the interview, he couldn’t leave the house. “I was paralyzed. I had a feeling I was going to get the job,” he says, “and my instincts told me I was about to make a big mistake.” He called and canceled.

“I was still working with my mentor, the inventor, and I remember telling him I could really use some money.” Howe will never forget what the man told him: “He said, ‘Lewis, money will come to you at the exact moment when you’re ready for it.’”

It wasn’t until much later that Howes understood exactly what that meant.

4. Stay consistent, build momentum and master the art of the leverage.

“The first time I made $1,000 off sponsorships for a three-hour LinkedIn networking event, I was floored,” he says. For the next several years, Howes hosted dozens of these events around the country. He promoted them through his ever-growing channels and they continued to build momentum. He emphasizes the importance of consistency: “People will start a project or company and will stop because it got too hard. I was consistent in doing the same thing and building momentum.”

But consistency doesn’t mean you get too comfortable. Howes mastered every opportunity and then leveraged it to move to the next level. Following one of his events, he was approached to do a free live webinar. That led to him teaching an advanced webinar. He liked it. He also found it lucrative. “At the end of that first session, I gave out my PayPal link. Within an hour there was $6,200 in my account.”

That was a game changer, he recalls. “I could teach people from all over the world information that I know from my laptop? I thought, I’ll do this every day!”

And so he began to master the webinar, both to build his game and his audience. It worked. Since 2009, he has conducted close to 1,000 webinars, with more than $10 million in sales.

Build The School of Greatness and they will come.

Howes knew it was time to move on when he began to lose his passion for the webinars. He sold the company to his partner and began to look around for his next gig. He moved from NYC to LA for a girl. She broke up with him the day he got there.

“It was so dramatic, being in a new city, and I was stuck in traffic all day.”

One day, during the hour it took him to inch forward a single mile, it occurred to him that there had to be a way to get in front of all these people, literally sitting in misery. He recalled the goal he had started out at the outset of the Sofa Years: to inspire, to open up possibilities for millions of people around the world.

The rest is history, of course. The School of Greatness book launched a few weeks ago and soon hit the New York Times best-seller list. The podcast has an audience of millions. And Howes himself is something of a phenomenon, particularly in the way he inspires people to do what they otherwise may not have had the courage to do: Start an ice cream company. Heal a relationship. Lose 100 pounds.

They come to his readings, from hundreds of miles away, to tell him their stories.

His success, he says, is all about connection, love and intimacy. He thinks people relate to him because he shares his pain. Because he’s open about his vulnerabilities. Because he shows his imperfections and fears.

This is what I believe, he tells me: “We were born to be great, to discover our unique gifts and talents and to pursue our dreams, even as they evolve. It’s our duty to go after our dreams. Because not only are we ourselves more fulfilled when we do, but we also inspire others to do the same. We give each other the courage.”

And with that, Howes bids me a quick goodbye, and school is dismissed.

– See more at: http://www.success.com/article/4-tips-to-reinvent-yourself-lewis-howes-style#sthash.1MISFB95.dpuf

10 Keys To Happiness

10 Keys To Happiness

We all want to be Happy, right?  Sometimes happiness escapes us, including Baby Boomers, and Grandpas, especially when we go through life changing events such as retirement.   An event like that can turn every part of our lives upside down.  Don’t worry there is help and there’s always HOPE.  Learn to Be Your Best.

REJOICE! (© Photo and text by John McFadden)
REJOICE! (© Photo and text by John McFadden)

This article from addicted2success.com (move down for article) can help you get back on you’re real path to happiness and the life you’ve always wanted.

1. Acceptance

Dwelling on our flaws makes it exceedingly difficult to achieve happiness in our lives.

Accepting ourselves and being kind to ourselves increase our enjoyment, resilience, and well-being.

 

2. Appreciation

Once you start noticing the world around you, you will begin to appreciate it that much more. If you’ve ever felt that there has to be more to life, you’d be safe in your assumptions. You just need to stop every now and then so you can take the time to appreciate what’s out there.

 

3. Direction

You have to have goals in order to feel good about the future. That takes direction and motivation. Our goals must be challenging yet realistically achievable. Attempting the impossible creates undue stress. However, choosing ambitious goals gives us direction.

 

4. Emotion

Regularly experiencing positive emotions such as contentment, gratitude, inspiration, and pride helps us to develop our resources.

It helps us focus on the positive aspects in our lives (the glass is half full, not half empty).

 

5. Exercising

Your mind is connected with your body. So when we are active it not only benefits our physical health, it makes us happier. Our moods improve and we can even lift ourselves out of depression as a result.

Interestingly enough, our activities do not have to involve complex exercises. There are simple things that we can do every day so that we are more active.

 

6. Giving

Caring about others and doing for others is vital to a person’s happiness. When we give to others or help them, it makes us happier and we become healthier in the process.

Giving helps us to create a better society. However, it also helps us to develop stronger connections with those around us.

 

7. Meaning

People feel more in control, get more out of their efforts, and are typically happier when their lives have meaning and purpose. Plus, they experience less anxiety, depression, and stress in their lives.

 

8. Relationships

Relating with others is quite possibly the greatest contributor to our happiness. Individuals who have broader, stronger relationships with others are happier and healthier. It also helps us to live longer.

We can increase our self-worth by developing close relationships with our family members and friends.

 

9. Resilience

All of us have experienced failure, loss, stress, and trauma in our lives. However, it is the way we react and respond to these issues that can have a huge impact on our lives and well-being. In other words, it is the way that we bounce back when we get knocked down.

 

10. Trying out

There are a number of positive benefits to learning. You get exposed to new ideas which enables you to stay curious and learn new things.

We become more resilient and improve our self-confidence, eventually gaining a sense of accomplishment.

 

Closing note: if you unscramble the first letter of each component above (A, A, D, E, E, G, M, R, R, and T) it spells “GREAT DREAM”.

10 Blessings for This Season

10 Blessings for This Season

The Holiday Season, yes Christmas, and other faith based holidays are known to be stressful for lots of people including Baby Boomers and many people around the world. Today, I’d like to give you these 10 Blessings. Keep your dreams alive and set high expectations for your life.  You can keep these words in your heart and mind and make good use of them.  Share them with others who need to know that someone cares for them.

May your Holidays and the coming new year be the best ever for you and yours.

10 Blessings for You
10 Blessings for You

Thanks for stopping by.  Come back soon, John

5 Wishes When Near Death

5 Wishes When Near Death

Mom's Funeral

Let’s face it Baby Boomers, even though we think we’re invincible, we won’t live forever.  So let’s keep living life to the fullest!   While we do, we probably want to evaluate our life priorities.

Here are 5 reasons to live life well now so you don’t have life regrets when your near the end of life.  Now is the time to think about this and make changes before regrets arise.

Top five regrets of the dying,

There was no mention of more sex or bungee jumps. A palliative nurse who has counselled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common regrets we have at the end of our lives. And among the top, from men in particular, is ‘I wish I hadn’t worked so hard’.

Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. “When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently,” she says, “common themes surfaced again and again.”

Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

What’s your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?

The top five regrets of the dying
A palliative nurse has recorded the top five regrets of the dying. Photograph: Montgomery Martin/Alamy Montgomery Martin / Alamy/Alamy
7 Ways to Happiness! Baby Boomers Rock!

7 Ways to Happiness! Baby Boomers Rock!

Happy Life
Happy Life of Grand Kids

Ah, Happiness, that sometimes elusive emotion we all strive for.  Now that we Baby Boomers are in our 50’s and 60’s, retirement is on the horizon, Happiness can, but shouldn’t,  seem even more elusive.  After all, our bodies are changing, our minds are changing, we change jobs or retire and most of our kids have left the nest.  Hopefully, they haven’t had to come back, yet.

This is a lot of change happening in our personal universe all at the same time.  Some of us adapt to these changes easily and quickly.  “The good news is that with age comes happiness,” said study author Yang Yang, a University of Chicago sociologist. “Life gets better in one’s perception as one ages.”  And Duke University aging expert Linda George say, an older person may realize “it’s fine that I was a schoolteacher and not a Nobel prize winner.”  I believe we all have special talents and skills and we are perfect the way we are.

Others, maybe not so much.  Seriously, this is a lot for our brains, bodies, pride and egos to handle.

So, how do we deal with aging and continue to live life with zest and swagger? Here are some tips on how to become and stay a Happy Baby Boomer.

1.  Life is Simple.  don’t get bogged down with all the little details, keep loving yourself, happiness comes from acceptance-of yourself, your situation, your challenges  and “who” you are; remain true to yourself.

2.  Realize that life “is what it is“, in other words we’re gonna get older no matter what, we can’t stop aging.   “It’s all good“, meaning just deal with it, and make life a good experience.  We might as well, “enjoy life, there’s plenty of time to be dead.” (TEDX Pune, Aisha Chaudhari, Being Happy and Living in the Moment.).

3.  Realize Happiness is a chosen Attitude, it only comes from within our minds.  Choose to be happy, focus your thoughts on good things, be grateful for what we have, and control your thoughts.  You can say to yourself, “I Declare I am Happy”, or “I choose to be happy today”.  Block out the negative ones.  We must become the Master of Our Brains.  Our brains are just like the worlds’ best computers, they do what we tell them to do.  At least most of the time.  So, tell your Master Computer Brain to Be Happy.

4.  Be in the present and expect an awesome future.  Don’t get stuck in the past.  As the old  saying goes, “That was yesterday, today is TODAY!”  We enjoy life more when we focus on the moment, what we’re doing, right now, at this moment. Get lost in it, enjoy it and do your best.  However, it’s fine to remember and reminisce about past events and activities and accomplishments.  This can cheer you up at a sad time.  The key is not to dwell on past regrets.  Remember the good times, enjoy the present moment and have something to look forward to in the near future.

5.  As for our aging bodies, KEEP ACTIVE!  keep working on your Bucket List.  That’s the secret.  Take walks, alone, with your dog, with a friend or two, no matter how far you can walk.  Dance, move that body, all of it, even those hips.  Swim, exercise, or learn Tai chi.  Even the simplest Yoga stretches and movements help your body and mind be healthier.  The better we take care of our body now, the longer it will last.  Other ways to feel valuable and to feel satisfied is by volunteering and helping others.  There’s hundreds of ways to do this.

6.  Chill out.  Stop being so serious, relax, tell jokes, sing, get a hobby, Laugh Every Day! Be Social and you’ll keep the blues away.  In an ABC news article “81-year-old George O’Hare, a retired Sears manager in Willowbrook, Ill. He’s active with church, AARP and does motivational speaking, too. His wife is still living, and he’s close to his three sons and four grandchildren. “I’m very happy because I’ve made friends that are still living,” O’Hare said. “I like to go out and speak in schools about motivation.”  “Happiness is getting out and being with people, and that’s why I recommend it,” he said.

7.  Most important learn to Love Yourself and Be Your On Best Friend!  The voices in our heads can be very self critical.    When that happens tell the voices to go away, scat, and shut up, because they are wrong.  We can forgive ourselves for the past and mentally move on to the present.  Wake up each morning and count your blessings, own your potential and who you are.  Be proud of that and have confidence in it.  Imagine what it would be like to best your own best friend, what would you say, how would you act?  Now, go do it!  Start being your best friend TODAY!

And as a reminder, Happiness leads to success, so why not Get Your Happy On right now!

Thanks for stopping by, I hope you enjoyed this chat,  thanks, John

Voices In My Head

Voices In My Head

Version 2
Be Quiet

Baby Boomers and almost everyone have those negative voices in your head that make you confused, frustrated and hold you back from living a full life.

We’re not talking about Intuition here, that’s another subject for later.

The pesky, negative voices in your head, often called Monkey Brain, can be too much to handle.  They can be destructive, wrong, annoying, and aren’t the real you.  Don’t listen too them unless they are warning you of danger ahead.  How do you deal with them and shut them up?  This article really hits the spot with 6 great tips..

From Psychology Today, Mridu Khullar Relph

6 Things You’re Saying To Yourself That Are Holding You Back

That loud voice in your head is setting you up to fail. Here’s how to ignore it.
Posted Sep 29, 2015

There’s an annoying voice in your head.

It says things that you would never say to your brother or your best friend or your spouse but that you say to yourself. Frequently.

The voice needs to be silenced because it’s making you feel things about yourself or your situation that simply aren’t true. It makes you doubt yourself, gets you confused about important life decisions, and makes bleak predictions about the future that it cannot possibly know.

Worse yet, you believe it and that’s holding you back.

I know because I have that annoying voice in my head, too, and some days it takes everything I have to not listen, and if I’ve listened, to not pay attention, and if I’ve paid attention, to not believe it (link is external). Or if I’ve believed it, to wake up the next day and try and ignore it anyway.

What are the things you say to yourself when no one’s listening? Recognize any of these?

“I don’t know how to [X].”

I’ve noticed that the reason a lot of us have for not trying something is that we feel we don’t have the necessary experience or expertise in X, Y, and Z.

And for any among you thinking that you don’t know anything about querying or researching or interviewing, here’s my solution: You can learn. It might take a bit of time and it might be a lot of hard work, but there are two things it won’t be: expensive and impossible.

Maybe you won’t be able to achieve your goal next month or three months from now or even six months from now. But a year from now? You’ll have learned something new. You’ll have experimented. You’ll have taken a risk.

So if all that’s stopping you from reaching your goals is the voice in your head that says, “I don’t know how” answer it with the simple declaration of “I’m going to learn.”

“What if I’m wrong?”

I hate being wrong. Seriously. Hate it.

Being wrong costs me time and money. It costs me assignments and respect from editors (or so I tell myself). It costs me respect from you, my readers, because you’re not here to read all about my failures, right? You want to read about what’s working, what makes money, and what techniques get success.

But here’s what I’m learning constantly: People want to know the process. If I succeed, you can go back and replicate everything I’ve done and if I don’t, we’ll all have learned what not to do without thousands of individual hours wasted.

So, what if it turns out that I’m wrong? What if you’re taking a risk right now and you turn out to be wrong? Then listen to this and repeat it to yourself however many times you need to: If you’re wrong, that’s okay because you’ve made a mistake. It doesn’t make you a bad person, an untalented hack, a fraud or a bad lover. All it does is make you wrong. In this particular instance.

It’s not a reflection on all the decisions in your life up to this point or on all the decisions you’re going to make from this point forward. It’s not a reflection on your decision-making abilities. It’s not a reflection on who you are as a writer or a person or as a mother. It is one mistake. You were wrong. And that’s okay.

“So-and-so tried that and failed.”

This is a common line used by people to hold themselves back. They (um, I) find excuses to not do something because someone else tried it and failed and so why reinvent the wheel, why repeat someone else’s mistakes, right? This excuse is particularly damning because it comes with such solid logic. But the truth is that many of us use “she tried and failed” as an excuse to not try ourselves.

The trick is not to give up trying but to ask the right questions about why someone else failed. What did they do wrong? And what can you do better?

“I don’t have enough experience…”

Like the “I don’t know how to X” line, when you tell yourself that you have no experience, you limit yourself because instead of going out and getting that experience, you stop trying.

You’re not limited because you can always make up for lack of experience and lack of knowledge by going out and getting it.

So instead of saying you don’t have experience, start thinking instead, about how you can go about getting it.

“Why should so-and-so speak to me? I’m a nobody.”

This is one I say to myself often. In one of my writing groups recently, we were talking about how to network, make contacts, and push ourselves beyond our capabilities. I hesitate to contact people for meetings, I feel uncomfortable asking a CEO of a major company out to lunch because I feel like I’m imposing on his or her time, even if I’ve managed to make myself known to them. I asked my writing group about this and the amazing Susan Weiner (link is external) (author of Financial Blogging: How to Write Powerful Posts That Attract Clients) wrote: “Don’t assume that you have nothing to offer. In fact, you could say, ‘In return, I’d be happy to act as a sounding board for you’ or something like that.”

Words that I, and you, should tape up on our walls. Just ask. Don’t make up their minds for them. At least give them a chance to say yes.

“I just don’t know what to do any more.”

Sometimes, this is true. In fact, it was true for me not too long ago. There’s no easy answer to this. All the pep talks in the world won’t help if you’re stuck and simply haven’t reached a point of clarity that will help you decide on a next step.

I have learned, from experience, that the best thing—the only thing—to do when you don’t know what to do is to do something. Anything. Don’t sit idle and don’t obsess. Do what feels good, what comes naturally. Then do something else. Until you’ve figured out your course of action, keep moving and keep doing. The worst thing you can do is to become paralyzed and stop moving at all.

In time, your course will become clear and the momentum you’ve built by staying on the course will help propel you forward.

What’s the voice in your head telling you? How is it holding you back?

(from https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/culturally-incorrect/201509/6-things-you-re-saying-yourself-are-holding-you-back)

Thanks for stopping by and reading this post, Enjoy Your Day, Live Life Well, John

Memories Keep Special People In Our Hearts

Memories Keep Special People In Our Hearts

memoriesclouds

Memories of good times and special people from our past create very strong emotions.  Sometimes it’s great happiness and feelings of being blessed by that special person, other times it creates regret towards what could of been or what you wished had happened.  It’s different for everyone and each situation.  Regardless, we can’t change the past.  It is what it is and it’s all good!  We must enjoy our good memories with positive thoughts and feelings, and learn a lesson from them.  Then, we can file them away for later and move forward, not getting stuck in them and we then create new memories out of our bright future. As I like to say, our thoughts become our reality.

Live Life Well, John

6 Great Activities For Retirement

6 Great Activities For Retirement

IMG_0797

Follow Your Retirement Dreams

Baby Boomers, Grandpas and Retirees, we all find ourselves with the true blessing of more time to do what we’ve always wanted to do!  What do we want to do with this time?  I’m re-inventing myself as what I call a Free Range Explorer.

DSCN0748

Until now,  I’ve always been a right brain creative type in left brain logical type jobs and careers.  I did what I had to do to support my wife and children.  No regrets, it is what it is and it’s all good! We all turned out pretty well.

Now, my life has changed dramatically for the better.  I’ve decided to focus my time on things I love.  Here are the 6 Great Activities For Retirement that I enjoy.  There are Many More, but these make me happy and are on top of my list.

They aren’t in order of preference, just random.

Photography – I remember my Dad taking lots of photos while on our “summer trips”. It was something he enjoyed along with the “slide shows” we all endeared after we got home.  Reliving those memories got me interested enough to get a 35mm SLR(I’m dating myself) and take a few photography classes during school.  My interest continued and is still strong today.  Now I have the time to take outings and trips and get more serious about making photographs.  Our house is filled with various 8×10 and 16×20 museum quality canvas prints of scenes from the South of France, Amsterdam. Norway, England and all over America and of course, children and grandchildren. It’s nice to have part of “me” hanging on the wall to enjoy.

Travel – Along with photography, my Dad taught me the love a worldwide travel when I was young.  So much so, that I’ve had careers with an international airline and elite travel agency. Now we travel to visit our children who are spread out.  And we travel mostly America and Europe learning from the locals, and experiencing their sites, nature and cuisine.

IMG_0290

Cooking – Cooking is fun and satisfying and has a nice reward at the end, Eating!  For fun, get your kids and grand kids involved with the planning, preparation, cooking and serving, and, oh yeah, the eating.  This makes for a nice bonding time and they might even learn something about getting along, planning and life.  I plan on adding Cooking classes in some of the cities I visit.

IMG_0538

Writing – Now that you have more time in retirement, you can write the block buster, all American book.  Write stories for your grand kids. Write your biography. A romance novel,  or a cookbook or a How To book.  Those last 3 happen to be the biggest selling niche’s on Amazon Kindle books.  After all these years you’re probably an expert at something.  Share that knowledge with the world on a blog or ebook.  The options are endless.  If you don’t think you can write a book, outsource it, based on your knowledge, to a professional writer on Fiverr.com for a small fee.  They can make your cover, do all the layout and get it ready for you to upload to Kindle.

Friends and Family – Your friends and family always need your attention and nurturing.  Try finding your roots by studying genealogy. Spend time with your family and friends, do things with them and have fun connecting.  Ride bikes, go to a movie, take a hike, learn a craft, restore an old car, or learn to knit or play cards together or play musical instruments together.  If your relationships are strained, now’s the time to reconnect.  Be the brave one and reach out to them, in the long run they’ll appreciate it.

DSC_0042

This is only 6 possibilities out of hundreds.  It might take some time to figure out what is most important to you but it’s worth the effort. Now that I’m moving into retirement I’ve been reinventing myself.  I’ve had to do some deep soul searching.  Even now, I’m still not done.  It will be an evolving mission with lots of change of route a long the way.  That can make life even more exciting.

Thank goodness we have the time and resources (more than ever before) to do what we want and become our best and happiest selves.   So how do you REALLY want to spend your time?  Go ahead, create your dreams and Live Life Well, everyday!

Thanks for stopping by today, John

A Free Range Explorer